New Toy for Charmed!

January 20, 2019

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I’ve mentioned in the past that I’ve picked up a new hobby over the past few months, making jewelry and hypno-toys for myself and my loved ones. Honestly, I feel like I’m barely scratching the surface with it as yet – I’m really just picking up chains and pendants and beads and stuff from local hobby stores and bending them to and fro with a pair of flat-head pliers until it holds together. But I’m really liking the results; here’s a piece I made for myself and my Goddess Lady Ru’etha to share at Charmed:


It’s really very simple, but I was really happy with the way it came out. The chain is just long enough to dangle from my finger, and the loop on the end lets me hold it very easily without having to grip it (and although it’s not immediately obvious, there’s a clasp there, so you can adjust the size of the loop in just a few moments). Here’s a look at it “in action”, as it were:


As you can see, it’s really easy to make something very beautiful with just a quick trip into a hobby store, and there’s nothing quite so satisfying as brainwashing something with a toy you made yourself. I can’t stress enough how much I really enjoyed doing this, and I look forward to sharing future projects with you as well!


Early Bird Sneak Peek: “ZYX”!

January 16, 2019

Hi all! It’s time for another Early Bird Sneak Peek, where I share a glimpse at the story my lucky Early Bird patrons will be enjoying next Saturday thanks to their pledges at my Patreon page! Of course, if you’re not an Early Bird patron, you’ll still get a story next week–“Messy”, teased previously as an Early Bird story, has already been submitted to the EMCSA. But the Early Bird patrons will be getting “ZYX” (MC MD MF)!

Miku and her boyfriend Chris are playing one of their favorite hypnosis games again. It’s very simple – he prompts her to recite the alphabet backwards, and she tries to remember as many letters as she can before she sinks into a deep, obedient trance for him. It turns out to be surprisingly challenging. Here’s a taste:

“Y,” Miku intoned, trying not to think about the way her lips already felt numb and clumsy as she spoke. She understood enough about hypnotism to know that every time she went through this sequence of actions, she became more and more susceptible to trance simply by association, but she was still just stubborn enough to force herself to try to get a little bit further along each time. Last time she made it as far as ‘O’. This time she was sure she could get all the way.

Chris didn’t make it easy, though. “That’s it,” he said softly, his voice coaxing her deeper into relaxation with every word. “Picture every letter in your mind as a link in a chain, each one leading you deeper down to the next one in a steady, even descent. You always start wide awake at ‘Z’, and you always sink down to ‘Y’, and after that comes…”

“X,” Miku murmured, ignoring the way her brain lurched slightly as she spoke. It would be a lot easier to win if Chris didn’t keep changing the game every time they played; sometimes he described the letters slipping away from her mind as she sank deeper into trance, while other times the recitation itself was hypnotic. She could never keep up with it all, especially not with the crystal constantly drawing her gaze back to its sparkling, captivating depths.

Hope you enjoy it!

Charmed Is Coming!

January 13, 2019

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As I’m sure you’re aware if you read my Tumblr… or, rather, as I’m sure you would be aware if Tumblr’s catastrophic collapse hadn’t made it much more difficult to communicate this kind of thing… I’m headed to Charmed next weekend! It’s going to be a very fun and exciting weekend of polishing up my hypnosis skills, spending time with friends and loved ones I don’t get to see in person as often as I’d like, and maybe doing a little tranceplay with one or two folks. I’m looking forward to it a lot.

I don’t really have a whole lot on the agenda as a presenter this year; I’m going to be taking part in the erotica reading on Saturday night from 9 PM to whenever, and I’ll probably bring some of my new material that hasn’t been released anywhere (I’ve got a new story featuring the long-awaited rematch between Sangria and WildRose, so that might be my first pick). Also, I’m providing reading material for the Hysterical Literature event in the previous slot, which may interest some folks as well. On Sunday, I’m planning to put up a suggestion for an unconference slot on brainwashing mantras and how to build them, and Sunday afternoon at 4:30 I’m co-presenting with Jennifer Kohl and The Secret Subject on how to grow a Patreon.

I will be trying to live-tweet any panels that I have permission to live-tweet, using the hashtag “#charmed19”; however, that is entirely subject to the enthusiastic consent of the presenter and anyone’s privacy concerns, so there may be times when I go a little quiet. I love the con, I want everyone who’s not attending to have access to as much useful information as they can get, but the security and comfort of the attendees always takes primacy in this kind of situation. The same holds true of any kind of convention recaps – if I’m not able to tell my stories without sharing other people’s private memories, it’s going to stay at the con.

Which is just one more reason for everyone reading this to come to next year’s Charmed, right? Right.

Early Bird Sneak Peek: “Unraveling”!

January 10, 2019

Hi all! It’s time for another Early Bird Sneak Peek, where I share a glimpse at the story my lucky Early Bird patrons will be enjoying next Saturday thanks to their pledges at my Patreon page! Of course, if you’re not an Early Bird patron, you’ll still get a story next week–“Uh Huh”, teased previously as an Early Bird story, has already been submitted to the EMCSA. But the Early Bird patrons will be getting “Unraveling” (MC FF)!

Doctor Ishani Gupta has been waiting for this moment for a long time. She’s tested her brainwashing helmet on countless victims, she’s perfected the process of unwinding a person’s core personality and leaving them a blank slate, and she’s finally lured her colleague Doctor Priyanka Misra into the perfect position of total vulnerability. You can’t blame her for boasting just a little, can you? Here’s a taste:

“By now, I suspect, you’re experiencing a phenomenon known as hypnotic paralysis–you can hear my words, and even make sense of them, but reaching up and pulling the headset off probably seems too much like work when the spiral that you see wherever you look is so compelling. That’s normal, Priyanka. In a few minutes, you’re probably going to reach a depth of trance where remembering anything beyond your immediate experience is simply too difficult, which is the approximate baseline state that I’ll need you to be in for the rest of the experiment. It’s why I feel so comfortable talking to you about what’s to come–your brain simply isn’t up for retaining that knowledge right now. It won’t help you. Nothing will.

“Since I’m telling you all this, I may as well let you in on everything you’re going to experience. Once you’ve reached a deep hypnotic state–the device is tracking your eye movements, heart rate, breathing rate, a few other simple variables, it’ll know when you’re deep enough–you’ll begin to hear a voice through the headphones. You won’t recognize that anything’s changed, because it will still be my voice–I’d program you personally, but I’m afraid I simply don’t have the energy to keep talking to you through the entirety of the process. I’ll need to sleep at some point… well, so will you, but the machine won’t let you reach REM state. A certain amount of sleep deprivation is essential to the plan. Keeps your brain’s critical thinking faculties suppressed.

Hope you enjoy it!

Is It Hypnosis? – Part Fifteen

January 6, 2019

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And after a bit of a hiatus, it’s time to get back into my irregularly-posted, 100%-guaranteed-unreliable-or-your-lack-of-money-back look at my old stories and evaluation of the plausibility and ethics of the hypnosis within! Let’s get started, shall we?

Dirty Laundry: This one is definitely very plausible (and relatively mild) in its use of hypnosis; Will, the main character, is clearly into Rowan at the start, and it wouldn’t take much time or effort to get him into a state where he’d be happy to follow a suggestion that was already something he wanted to do. This is very much skirting the vague and ill-defined line between hypnosis and seduction, and I don’t think I’m being too inaccurate in saying that many lonely people are happy to be seduced by someone charming and attractive. (YMMV on what “charming and attractive” specifically means, here.)

Is it ethical? Well, Rowan doesn’t specifically say, “I am going to induce a trance state and make suggestions to you,” which is really something that you should be honest with your play partners about. Covert hypnosis is never cool. That said, she makes her intentions pretty clear right from the get-go, she’s forthright with Will about what she wants from him and in general, and her ‘hypnosis’ is really just dirty talk with a thin veneer of hypnotic language. I’ve certainly written people who’ve done worse.

The End Is the Beginning Is the End: This one’s a little tricky to judge, because the twist at the end (spoilers!) (for a nearly seven year old story!) is that this isn’t the protagonist’s first or even second attempt through the loop. She’s been repeatedly awakened and reinduced, each time with an instruction to forget the previous times and ignore any signs that time has passed, so the commands she’s given over the course of the story have no doubt been repeatedly reinforced. Moreover, we don’t see the initial induction, so we have no way of knowing how much of her… ahem, slightly implausible… susceptibility to hypnosis is natural and how much of it has been created by the reinforcement. In short, while it doesn’t seem that believable, repetition and conditioning are a hell of a thing.

It is, however, pretty safe to say that absent a sequence in which she gives her enthusiastic consent both to being repeatedly hypnotized in public, and to having her memory modified to forget that she knows the hypnotist and wants to be hypnotized (and certainly CNC scenes like that can be very hot, but…) this has to go in the “Do NOT Try This in a Coffee Shop Near Home” file.

I’d Do Anything for Love (But I Won’t Do That): And speaking of things that are incredibly sketchy… look, I’m about 137% certain that this wouldn’t work. Even if you factor in the fact that Jim is looking for a way to reconcile his self-professed identity as a straight man with his impending plans to be intimate with another guy, even if you take into account that he’s actively looking for an excuse to engage in homosexual activities without having to accept any emotional responsibility for it, even if you decide to go outside the stated text and play the “he’s a closeted gay or bisexual man and just hasn’t realized it yet” card, the fact remains that I just don’t think that hypnosis can be used to break that many boundaries that quickly, especially when the subconscious self knows that the hypnotist has been using trance to try to violate the subject’s trust that overtly.

But I’m not about to do any of the things that would prove my hypothesis right or wrong, because using hypnosis on a patient to get them to invite you into their bedroom for a threesome is just so far past the Event Horizon of Wrong that it’s not something we should ever discuss as anything more than a pure fantasy. So we will never find out.

It’s All Coming Back to Me Now: This, on the other hand, is the exact opposite of sketchy. And the exact opposite of implausible. It’s a loving, entirely consensual use of hypnosis in a situation where everyone has communicated in advance their needs and desires – the specific actions are not planned in advance, but they’re all things that are known to be ‘green’ to both of the parties involved, and everything is being done in the spirit of love and acceptance. And, I don’t mind saying, this is based on some real-life activities between myself and my Goddess (although it conflates together a couple of evenings, and omits a few things that we did together for the sake of narrative flow). This is a story that shows all the ways that you can use hypnosis, ethically and consensually, to create a wonderful experience for you and your partner.

One of These Nights: Annnnd this is a story about a skeezy guy hypnotizing his neighbor to give him free sex shows in the middle of the night. It’s safe to say that this is at best, highly unlikely to work; Donna mentions in the story that she doesn’t do nude photos professionally, so she’s clearly got a taboo about displaying her naked body to others, and it’s pretty hard to believe that the implied hypnotic commands that keep her wandering out of her bedroom in the middle of the night to masturbate for Jimmy would be strong enough to hold up in the face of that kind of prohibition, no matter how frequently he reinforced them. (And I’m generally of the opinion that reinforcing a command that a subject is resisting would probably make them less likely to accept any commands from you at all, rather than more likely to accept the command they’re resisting. Again, not that I’m likely to try.)

Which is, ultimately, the verdict on this story as a whole. It’s something you shouldn’t try, because even if you could pull it off, the thing you’d be doing would be horribly, horribly wrong and unethical and just a big nope all around. If you want someone to strip for you under the influence of hypnosis, find someone who’s into stripping and hypnosis and negotiate a scene.

And with that rather obvious message out of the way, we’re done with another installment! See you next week for another blog post, and next (shrug emoji) for another “Is It Hypnosis?”

Early Bird Sneak Peek: “Play With Me”! (MC MF FD BD)

January 3, 2019

Hi all! It’s time for another Early Bird Sneak Peek, where I share a glimpse at the story my lucky Early Bird patrons will be enjoying next Saturday thanks to their pledges at my Patreon page! Of course, if you’re not an Early Bird patron, you’ll still get a story next week–“Vertigo”, teased previously as an Early Bird story, has already been submitted to the EMCSA. But the Early Bird patrons will be getting “Play With Me” (MC FD MF BD)!

Skye’s getting bound tonight. She’s going to be wrapped tight with surgical gauze, teased and played with and tantalized with bliss until she’s a whimpering, sticky puddle of arousal. Oh, and she’s the top… here’s a taste:

Nathan’s eyes closed heavily in a glacial blink, then reopened with visible effort. “I’m your toy,” he said softly. There was no emotion in his voice, not even the drowsy bliss she sometimes heard when he was first descending into trance. He had gone too deep for that, down into the place in his head where the voice of his conscious mind was compltely silent and all he could do was respond and obey. It didn’t mean he wasn’t happy, of course. It just meant that he was so helplessly blank that he couldn’t think about what the words he was saying meant anymore.

“And what do good toys do?” Skye asked while she finished undressing, her panties coming away from her skin in a sticky, soaking mess as the thin fabric clung to her labia like an eager lover. She’d been looking forward to this all week, daydreaming about it as she texted Nathan from Singapore and video chatted with him from Hong Kong, her libido turning every night of the business trip into a masturbatory fantasy of all the things she would do when she returned. It still felt like the middle of the night to her jet-lagged brain, but she had more than enough energy for this.

Nathan let out a slow, lazy sigh, the only sign (along with his extremely hard, purplish-red cock) of the deep, obedient ecstasy flowing through his hypnotized mind and body. Skye felt herself practically glowing with pride at the sight of him, like a sculptor admiring a finished work–she’d shaped every single one of his thoughts by now, transforming him into her perfect submissive. He’d loved every step of the process, of course, but Nathan didn’t have any idea when they started on this journey together just how much his mind was capable of. She was so glad that she could show him.

And she was about to be more than just happy. “Good toys play with their owners,” Nathan responded reflexively, taking the bandages off the table and winding them around her ankles. Skye stood with her feet close together and her arms at her sides, feeling her cunt gush with arousal as the fabric unwound from the roll and clung to itself with each circuit of her body. He was careful to do several layers before taping the end to ensure that Skye could do nothing more than wiggle as he worked his way up.

Hope you enjoy it!

Liner Notes for December 2018

December 30, 2018

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Will you look at that – we’ve had the last story of 2018! Don’t worry, I promise there’s more where that came from… but for now, it’s time to do the last Liner Notes of 2018 and talk about the last month of stories! Let’s get started, shall we?

Repetition: One of the things about being in a long-distance relationship that involves hypnosis is that you don’t get as many opportunities as you want for play. Even with Skype, low-cost plane fares, and text chat (which does afford some hypnotic possibilities), there is still a certain amount of… oh, let’s say craving… that needs to be satisfied. This is where hypnosis recordings come in very handy. I’ve both made and listened to files like the one described in this story, and once I got the initial germ of an idea, it was really just a matter of turning reality up a couple of notches into a blissful fantasy world where you never needed to come all the way out of trance. (Although there are probably times where Ximena does need to take off the headphones, but she and her Lady are both mature about it.)

Habit: And speaking of hypnotic recordings… not that I’ve recorded this one, because I honestly think it’s only fair-to-middling in terms of my own induction work, but one of the reasons I do keep writing pieces like this is that I’m always hearing from people who like to record them for their partner to listen to (with their enthusiastic consent, of course). That’s a happy thing to me, even if I do kind of feel like they get a bit samey after a while… something that I’m trying to fix with some of the newer pieces that haven’t been published yet, but that’s a story for another time.

Five More Minutes: One of my Patrons requested a story with an hourglass of some kind as the hypnotic focus, and when I saw this title it felt like a good place to start with that. Naturally, one of the big attractions of using a focus like this is that you can just turn it back over again if they’re not sufficiently hypnotized. That led me to the idea of someone who thinks they only have to resist hypnosis until the sands run out and doesn’t realize that the hypnotist keeps turning the hourglass back over every time they close their eyes, extending the period they have to resist out into infinity. Which obviously implied a certain adversarial quality to their relationship, which in turn led me to the old stalwart of stories like this, “I bet you can’t hypnotize me!”

(There are two things to understand about that sentence. One, anyone who doesn’t want to be hypnotized can’t be hypnotized. Two, most of the people saying that sentence really really really want to be hypnotized.)

Queen of Hearts: Another Patreon request – this person wanted a stage hypnosis show, ideally something like “The Joker” or even a sequel if possible. And I confess, I have been looking for an excuse to do a sequel to “The Joker” for almost ten years now. The one I had in my head never seemed to quite work (I alluded to it in the sequel, it involved Madam Columbina dropping by for a game of strip poker with an ‘active’ hypnotic card in the deck) but when I was able to return it to a stage setting, it somehow seemed to flow significantly better. I’m genuinely proud of some of the stage patter she uses.

Yes, some of the women in the audience are trans. Madam Columbina ain’t no fuckin’ TERF.

X-Ray Eyes: I’ve mentioned in the past that I’m trying to work in more M/M stories into my rotation, so when I had a Patron ask me to do a story where “an alpha is turned beta”, I decided to a) make it into a story about M/M sex, and b) set it in a situation with a very rigid and unbending social structure, since generally speaking, the obsession with “alphaness” is really the kind of thing that belongs in a setting dripping with toxic masculinity. (Um, in case I’m not making it clear, yeah, YKINMK and all that, but really, the whole “alpha male” concept has been both debunked as pseudoscience and inextricably associated with misogynist rhetoric, so I’m not really likely to write something that doesn’t subvert it.)

So yes, my “alpha” is really just someone who’s been told he’s an “alpha” and has picked up a lot of toxic associations with that, and who doesn’t really have enough self-knowledge to understand what he really wants out of sex and relationships yet. (I mean, who does at eighteen, right?) He’s not a “true alpha” because there is no such thing, and Ward uses some social engineering to put him in a position where he doesn’t feel responsible for his own sexuality and can explore guilt-free. Which I guess is “beta” in the view of some people who don’t know that wolves aren’t people and don’t know that much about wolves either, he said cattily. (But hey, I’m a cat person.)

And there’s December in the books! Join me next week for another blog post, and next month for another liner notes! And next year because I won’t be posting another entry until then.

Early Bird Sneak Peek: “Vacancy”!

December 27, 2018

Hi all! It’s time for another Early Bird Sneak Peek, where I share a glimpse at the story my lucky Early Bird patrons will be enjoying next Saturday thanks to their pledges at my Patreon page! Of course, if you’re not an Early Bird patron, you’ll still get a story next week–“X-Ray Eyes”, teased previously as an Early Bird story, has already been submitted to the EMCSA. But the Early Bird patrons will be getting “Vacancy” (MC FD MF)!

Paul’s the owner of a small motel out in the middle of nowhere, with very little traffic and plenty of empty rooms. So when a woman comes in out of the rain and asks about the vacancy, he jumps to the wrong conclusion. Turns out that Maryam is interested in working at the motel, and she’s full of ideas to increase business. Opportunity just knocked, but Paul’s going to wish he hadn’t answered the door. Here’s a taste:

Maryam’s eyes lit up like he’d just said the doorknobs were made out of solid gold. “That’s what I’m here for… Paul!” she exclaimed, glancing over at the ‘manager on duty’ sign that he hadn’t changed since his father died. “I’m here to help you build customer relationships, explore alternative revenue streams–to grow the business! You think it’s a problem that so few people stop, but I see it as a chance to truly provide attentive customer service that will bring people back again and again! Take your rooms, for instance. Do you have anything like cable, wifi, anything like that?”

It took almost everything Paul had not to burst out laughing. “They’ve all got TVs,” he said, trying to keep his voice neutral. “But I can’t afford satellite–heck, I can barely afford my own Internet connection.” Thank goodness for college basketball fanatics, he thought to himself. Maybe it wasn’t the ‘alternative revenue stream’ Maryam had in mind, but it kept the lights on and the bills paid when nothing else did.

“Well,” Maryam said, shrugging off his practical objections like a duck shedding water, “we’ll soon fix that. We can start with Room Three, connect the television for Internet access–I can take care of that myself, I’ve got loads of experience with wiring. And once we’ve had a few customers stay in Room Three, I’m sure we’ll have the money to get the other rooms modernized. You’ve got… twelve rooms, it looks like? Yes, this should do quite nicely.”

“Um, I…” Paul was starting to feel like Maryam was having another conversation entirely, one that didn’t include him. “I can’t afford to hire someone, ma’am. I’m sorry. I can’t fix up Room Three, and even if I did, there’s nobody driving down this stretch of road who’s going to stop for the night just because I have cable TV.” He shrugged helplessly, feeling a bit of anger stirring underneath the fugue of exhaustion and confusion. “I’m a nice guy, I do whatever I can to be helpful, but the people who come here don’t have a relationship to build. They’re just here by accident.”

“Exactly!” Maryam said, her eyes wide with excitement. Paul half-expected her to do a little pirouette. “They’re here completely by accident, in this little out of the way hotel on a stretch of road where no one ever stops, tired and confused and exhausted. What’s the first thing they’re going to do when they get to their room? They’re going to look for something comforting. Something familiar.” She paused dramatically, as if waiting for a tiny fanfare. “The television! Oh, it’s just perfect.”

Hope you enjoy it!

Mind Control in “Dead and Buried”

December 23, 2018

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Someone I know once commented to me that an interest in mind control doesn’t always mean you’re turned on by it; sometimes, there are stories that feature mind control in a way that isn’t sexual at all, but that nonetheless grabs your attention and makes you more interested in a story that otherwise might just pass you by. I mention this because I really didn’t find the mind control in “Dead and Buried” sexy, and I kind of hope you don’t either… but it’s nonetheless a story with the kind of mind control that will definitely make you sit up and take notice. Details after the cut…

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The Current State of Tumblr

December 16, 2018

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I’ve posted a bit about this here and there on Tumblr itself over the last few weeks, but I feel like I should give some sort of a comprehensive update on my feelings and plans about the website I’ve spent the last few years on. So this is my best effort at an A to Z of the Tumblrgeddon. Which, let’s start there. With the “-geddon” part. Because at least as far as my community goes, Tumblr really did blow everything up.

For those of you who haven’t heard (it’d be difficult by now, but not impossible) Tumblr, in response to its profit margin the Apple store raising concerns about their lackadaisical approach to child porn mostly its profit margin maybe a little bit about the probably unconstitutional regulations about speech related to sex work nah seriously it’s the profit margin thing deep ethical concerns, has decided to remove all “adult content” from its site as of December 17th. This basically means, “no pictures of cocks and no pictures with any female nudity”, although it’s anybody’s guess as to how long it will take them to successfully implement this ban because they’re relying heavily on bots to do this and if you could design an AI that could tell you the content of a picture, you would be making so much money with all of its various other applications that you wouldn’t care about Tumblr. The point is, while it might take a while, Tumblr is pushing out its adult content creators.

Now, on a purely technical level, this does not affect me. I’ve already stopped using images in my posts, and they’ve specified that erotica is still allowed, so come tomorrow I will not be doing anything that violates the Terms of Service. I can continue to post there as long as I like… in theory. In practice, a) they might flag a whole bunch of my older posts that I never took down, b) my blog is explicit and I have no idea what this means under the new set-up, c) they might decide to change the TOS further to get rid of erotica if this doesn’t improve their revenues, d) my audience is primarily one that came to Tumblr looking for porn and a lot of them might leave when all of the visual content goes away, e) I don’t really enjoy being on a site that’s suddenly developed such a nasty case of Puritanism, and f) it’s entirely possible that membership might drop to a point where the site is no longer cost-effective to operate and this whole plan was predicated, no matter what management might say, on the idea that getting rid of the porn would make the site more profitable. Basically, Tumblr could just shut down.

As such, even though there are no immediate changes planned, I’m making preparations to abandon Tumblr. My current plan is to create mirror sites at a variety of other social media options, so that there won’t be any disruption whenever Tumblr does… whatever it’s going to do. I have been, and continue to be, investigating a variety of alternatives, based on the following criteria:

  1. I’m looking for a social media site. I’ve already got a WordPress blog, it blogs quite functionally every week, but it’s not the same as a social media feed and I want to make sure that I can publicize my stuff. I want to know whether people have interacted with the post, through likes or reblogs, and I want it to have a viral component. My flash fic is basically advertising, and advertising works best through word of mouth.
  2. I’m looking for a site that posts text content. I made an account on, and there didn’t even seem to be a way to put text posts on there. It assumed you were posting pics or videos only, and I’m not doing that.
  3. I don’t want another place that’s going to turn around and kick me out. Sharesome, among its other huge problems, has an explicit ban on hypnosis in its TOS. They say they’re not going to do it, but so did FetLife and they were huge assholes about it when it suited them.
  4. I want a site that’s functional. I made a Swarmr account, but a) I can’t customize the appearance of my site without learning a lot more about coding than I want to struggle with right now, and b) I can’t even figure out how to put fucking paragraph stops in my post. It’s a hideous mess and I’m not going with it.
  5. I want a site that doesn’t make a shameless grab for all of the intellectual property I post to it. Strike two, Sharesome.
  6. I want a site that has enough vanilla content that people who are presenting as vanilla can go there. One of the very nice things about Tumblr was that as long as you hid your likes and your followings, you could make a vanilla-seeming blog that nonetheless allowed you to explore your kinks in a safe, non-judgmental fashion that wasn’t immediately obvious to other people in your life. That’s a huge deal, given the stigma attached to kink even today, and it is very important to me that people can follow me without having to sign into KinkyNaughtySluttyBitches.Com. (Oh, hi Sharesome, that’s strike three!)
  7. And as a fourth strike for Sharesome, I want a site that doesn’t feel skeevy or sketchy. Things like a dedicated “upskirt” channel are pretty much dealbreakers, even on top of the other dealbreakers we’ve been talking about. (And yes, I’m aware that some shitty stuff has been going on with Tumblr that they’ve been sweeping under the rug. They really should be focusing their attention on getting rid of the child porn, the spam bots, the neo-Nazis and the people literally fucking organizing mass killings instead of the “female presenting nipples”.)

So. At this point, I’ve created a site at BDSMblr that fails on #6 but is otherwise decent, and a site on Dreamwidth that fails on #1 but is otherwise decent. I have ruled out Sharesome, Swarmr, Mastodon (maybe it’ll be an alternative to Twitter for me someday, but I can’t do flash fic 500 characters at a time), and Ello (entirely picture-oriented). At this time, I’m still looking into NibbleBit and Pillowfort, and I’m keeping an eye on some of the putative replacements like Mojofire and… **sigh…** Cumblr. (Although just the name fails #6 so hard…)

Once I have a site that fulfills all of my requirements, I will probably let my Tumblr account lapse into inactivity. I haven’t decided yet whether I’ll actually delete it, or whether I’ll just let it go dark until the site finally collapses into its own irrelevance, but either way it’s probably not going to be my issue for very long after I find a place to go to. I hope to see as many of my wonderful fans as possible at my new sites, and maybe to make some new ones – posting to multiple social media networks is a bit of extra work, but I do think it’s a good idea to have more than just one place to find me. And hopefully, as time passes, we’ll find these restrictions easing again. Right now, the people running the world didn’t have the Internet to help them discover their sexuality. I think that shows not just in the way they regulate sex, but in the way they run pretty much everything. I’m hopeful that the future will change that.