Archive for March, 2011

A Word to the Unwise

March 30, 2011

Y’know, at this point I’ve been a member of the hypnokink community for about a decade. Longer than some, less than others, and some of that time was spent as a quiet lurker, but the point is that I’ve been around long enough to see a few patterns emerge. And one of those is…well, we pretty much all approached the fetish through Simon bar Sinister’s Erotic Mind Control Stories Archive. Reading the stories that he’s meticulously collected is the gateway for most people into hypnokink, which means that one of the first things they read is the disclaimers on Simon’s website. Specifically, Disclaimer #3, which reads, “This site is for fantasy only. The situations described here are at best impossible or at worst highly immoral in real life. Anyone wishing to try this stuff for real should seek psychological help and/or get a life.”

But as a lot of people (including pretty much everyone who reads this blog) has found out, that’s not 100% true. Simon treats it as though it were, of course, because he’s running a website and doesn’t want to get sued by someone who read one of the stories there and decided it’d be a good idea to kidnap a teenage girl and drug her with experimental chemicals to see if he can brainwash her. That’s the sort of thing disclaimers are for. But the fact of the matter is, some of the situations described in some of the stories are not impossible, and are…well, at least only moderately immoral in real life. 🙂

There is a certain type of person, though, that believes that if the disclaimer is not entirely true, then that must mean it is entirely untrue. They find out that you can do lots of fun, sexy things to men and women with hypnosis, and they go out and learn hypnosis with the full intent of using it for fun, sexy things. This is, of course, not at all a bad thing in and of itself. Fun sexy things are fun. BUT…

I have seen, over the years, people who have gotten so excited about the idea of being able to indulge their fetish for hypnosis that they forget that the person on the other side of the watch is a person. (To quote Terry Pratchett, “There’s only one true evil in this world, and that’s treating people like they were things.”) They get so turned on by the idea of being able to actually, really, genuinely command another human being to do whatever they say that they do exactly that, even when those commands are pushing very real limits that the other person has. Sometimes it’s trying to trigger someone in an inappropriate situation (like at work, or with family.) Sometimes it’s trying to bypass their hard limits (like getting them to send photos or reveal personal information.) Sometimes it’s trying to get them to forget things that they probably shouldn’t forget (like the inappropriate things that the hypnotist tried earlier.)

In general, these people usually wind up with a bad reputation in the community, just like tops in the BDSM community who don’t respect safewords get bad reputations. I generally don’t call out bad hypnotists, because there’s always plenty of people to do it for me. I will, however, give you a word of advice. If you’re thinking about getting into hypnokink, and if you recognize some of what I described in yourself (and you don’t have to admit it to me, if you do. Just admit it to yourself…) listen to this.

I won’t say that you’ll wind up some sort of pariah. You’ll still be able to find bottoms from time to time, just because there’s always someone who just wants the experience (either because they’re curious, or because they miss it a lot and don’t have a good hypnodom/me they can call their own.) But those people will not stay. They will wind up unhappy with you, they will stop trusting you, and you will lose those good relationships. That beautiful, wonderful person that has trusted their mind to you will walk away, and hypnosis will not help you keep them. Their subconscious is trusting, their subconscious is welcoming, but their subconscious is not stupid and it is there to protect them. And you will wind up losing someone that you will wish you’d treated better. So remember…they’re people. Not things.

Getting Meta For a Moment

March 18, 2011

I’m stuck for a topic for this week’s post, so bizarrely enough, I thought I’d talk about why I’m stuck for a topic for this week’s post. I think if I was any more meta, I would be at severe risk of collapsing my blog into a singularity.

It’s hard, knowing that I have so much difficulty writing for this blog, because I know it’s Lady Ru’etha’s favorite. She enjoys my stories, of course, and She enjoys my vanilla writing too, but I know She’s always a little bit sad when I get behind writing this blog. And when Lady Ru’etha is sad, I am sadder. 🙂

But on thinking about it, I know exactly why this is the hardest of all my regular writing gigs to come up with a topic for. It’s not because I don’t have enough of an interest in hypnosis (believe me, I live a hypnosis lifestyle 24/7, and I couldn’t be happier with it.) It’s because the columns here have a narrow focus, and I’m not exactly a narrow-focus kind of guy. Look at my stories, for example. On a weekly basis, I veer wildly from humor to romance to body-horror to darkly sadistic BDSM, and that’s sometimes just in one story! (Rimshot.)

But here…I have to talk about hypnosis. Like, just talk about it. Even on weeks when all I have to say is, “I was hypnotized again last night and it was utterly deliciously hot and sexy and fun!” (Which is even harder, given that I generally try to trail off in these posts before I explain just what happened after the hypnotic inductions. You want porn, go read my porn. 🙂 ) I’m not an expert on hypnotism, so my insights on hypnosis aren’t frequent enough to warrant a weekly summary of them. And as much as I love to talk about my writing and hypnosis in media, I think people would get sick of the former and the latter is really someone else’s gig. I’d fill up the gaps with short fiction, but, um…that goes to an obscure little site called the EMCSA. (It stands for something, but I can’t remember what.)

All of which means that it’s a little harder to think of weekly ideas for this blog than for the other things I write. Which isn’t to say I’m giving up–far from it. In case you missed it at the beginning of this post, Lady Ru’etha loves reading my blog entries. That by itself is motivation to keep trying every week. But some weeks are easier than others, and I thought my readers deserved to know why.

A Request For a Favor

March 13, 2011

As I’m sure you all know, I have made my mind-control erotica available in book form at the wonderful, both in downloadable ebook form and print-on-demand book form. I have mentioned this from time to time, because while writing these stories is a labor of love, it is labor nonetheless, and I like to think that if given the option to give me something back for all the warm happy moments you’ve had reading these stories, you’d do so. (There is no need to mention exactly how warm and happy some of the warm and happy moments are. 🙂 )

But I also understand that money is not always easy to come by in these difficult times, and so I figured I’d mention a nice thing you could do for me that didn’t involve spending it. Every one of my books on Lulu has a section where it is rated and reviewed by consumers, and even if you haven’t bought the books, there’s a good chance if you’re reading this that you’ve read the stories. So if you wanted to go and rate/review the books, I’d be much obliged! In order to help you out, the specific stories included in each anthology are listed below:

Greatest Hits, Volume One: “Cars”, “I Melt With You”, “Whip It”, “Simply Irresistible”, “Mickey”, “She Blinded Me With Science”, “Who Can It Be Now?”, “One Way Or Another”, “Eternal Flame”, “Sweet Dreams Are Made Of This”, “Addicted To Love”, “I Touch Myself”, “High On You”, “Submission”, “A Question of Time”, “Under My Thumb”, “Shameless”, “The Bitch Is Back”, “Transylvanian Concubine”, “Sex As A Weapon”, “867-5309”.

Classic Jukebox: “Back in Black”, “Dare To Be Stupid”, “Come As You Are”, “Turning Japanese”, Life in the Fast Lane”, “She Drives Me Crazy”, “You’re So Vain”, “Jukebox Hero”, “Killing Me Softly”, “Jessie’s Girl”, “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”, “Hysteria”, “New Sensation”, “All She Wants To Do Is Dance”, “Always Something There To Remind Me”, “Zip-a-Dee-Doo-Dah”, “Love in an Elevator”, “Never Surrender”, “Video Killed the Radio Star”, “Tempted”, “Love Bites”.

The Immaculate Collection: “Unsent”, “Weird Science”, “Push”, “Hip To Be Square”, “Uninvited”, “Don’t You Forget About Me”, “Play the Game”, “Surrender”, “Moment of Weakness”, “Policy of Truth”, “Miss You”, “Kiss Me Deadly”, “Keep Myself Awake”, “Feels Like the First Time”, “Love Stinks”, “Listen to the Music”, “True Colors”, “Look What the Cat Dragged In”, “Promises In the Dark”, “Follow You Down”, “Then the Morning Comes”.

The Best That I Could Do: “Silly Love Songs”, “Criminal”, “Headwires”, “Suddenly I See”, “If You Leave”, “Help Me Rhonda”, “Nothing Else Matters”, “Here Comes the Rain Again”, “Wake Up Call”, “A Hard Day’s Night”, “Here Comes the Bride”, “What’s On Your Mind”, “Can’t Buy Me Love”, “Don’t You Want Me”, “Black Velvet”, “Heat of the Moment”, “Small Town”, “The Final Countdown”, “My Best Friend’s Girl”, “Unforgettable”, “Hot Blooded”.

Past, Present and Future: “Don’t Speak”, “Sharp Dressed Man”, “Show Don’t Tell”, “Already Gone”, “I Ran So Far Away”, “Zombie”, “Talking In Your Sleep”, “You’re the Inspiration”, “Common People”, “Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap”, “God Save the Queen”, “Just Can’t Get Enough”, “Xenophobia”, “The Reflex”, “I Need To Wake Up”, “Enter Sandman”, “Paint It Black”, “Come On Eileen”, “Suicide Blonde”, “All You Zombies”, “Soft and Wet”.

Songs In the Attic: “Dancing With Myself”, “What a Girl Wants”, “Sweet Surrender”, “A Pretty Girl Is Like a Melody”, “You May Be Right”, “Step By Step”, “Unwritten”, “Zero”, “Brand New Key”, “Wage Slaves”, “I Can’t Wait”, “I’m a Believer”, “Electioneering”, “If I Only Had a Brain”, “Secret Journey”, “A Question of Lust”, “Dressed for Success”, “You Can’t Deny It”, “Dirty Laundry”, “The End Is the Beginning Is the End”, “I’d Do Anything For Love (But I Won’t Do That)”.

In a Word: Yes: “It’s All Coming Back To Me Now”, “Losing My Religion”, “One of These Nights”, “Wish You Were Here”, “Body Language”, “Hit Me With Your Best Shot”, “Glycerine”, Enjoy the Silence”, “The Joker”, “Good Morning Little School Girl”, “Urgent”, “The Waiting”, “Give Yourself To Me”, “Caught Up In You”, “Daydream Believer”, “Changes”, “Cruel To Be Kind”, “Come Together”, “Kiss”, “Too Late For Love”, “Ladybug Waltz”.

Classicks: “Re: Your Brains”, “Heart Shaped Box”, “My Name Is”, “Joy to the World”, “Exercise One”, “Yesterday”, “Running On Empty”, “Every Breath You Take”, “The Way You Make Me Feel”, “Left in the Dark”, “Quicksand”, “Trigger Happy”, “Won’t Get Fooled Again”, “Take a Bow”, “Vampire”, “Fascination”, “Spellbound”, “Nothing Too Serious”, “Fever”, “Nobody Does It Better”, “It’s Raining Men”.

The collections after that have stories not yet posted to the EMCSA; if you want to review those for me, you’ll either need to wait or else give them a buy. (I know which one I’d prefer…)

MST3K Vs. Hypnosis, Volume Five

March 9, 2011

You know, it just occurred to me that in my last MST3K post, I mentioned that there were two hypnosis-themed movies in the last boxset, but I never got around to talking about the other one! I hope I didn’t leave anyone hanging. (You know, anyone with access to the Internet but not any ability to use a search engine.)

In any event, the other episode in question is the Season Eight flick “Devil Doll”, which is a movie that’s pretty heavy on the hypnosis (if light on thrills.) It centers around a sinister stage hypnotist/ventriloquist named “The Great Vorelli”, who manages to combine the two most popular “sinister entertainer” tropes into one neat package. Anyhow, a reporter who wants to write a puff piece on Vorelli’s act (which does involve some hypnosis sequences, surprise surprise) accidentally brings his girlfriend to Vorelli’s attention, and Vorelli decides that she’s a wealthy heiress and he’s an evil hypnotist, and comes to the natural conclusion. He hypnotizes her (in a scene that I have to admit is pretty good…he entrances her with a glass of red wine, and the actress goes blank and glassy pretty convincingly) and insinuates himself into her life. Meanwhile, the reporter is investigating Vorelli’s background and finds out that his dummy has the same name as a former assistant of Vorelli’s. One who died. Oh, and did I mention that the dummy is wandering around killing people?

In the end, the reporter manages to show up at about the same time that the problem is taking care of itself, which I suppose technically makes him the hero, and Vorelli winds up getting some poetic justice. It’s the sort of movie that feels like it would be black-and-white even if it was in color, but there’s some great riffing, a few good hypnosis scenes, and decent sketches. I recommend it.

FFF Round-Up!

March 2, 2011

Last week, I…actually intended to write about what I did the week before the week I posted about the new book, but I didn’t post about it right away because I wanted to tell you all about the new book, but then somehow I didn’t post anything last week (last week was kind of crazy busy, but I usually at least remember procrastinating) and now I’m going to write about what I did the weekend of the 11th through the 13th. Which was, as I mentioned the week before that weekend, Fetish Fair Fleamarket. Got all that? Good, because I am not repeating it.

We arrived on Thursday, late (we in this case is myself, Lady Ru’etha, and CopperHeron, my fellow pet and co-husband.) Luckily, events didn’t start until late on Friday, giving us plenty of time to wake up, decompress from the flight, catch a bite to eat for lunch, generally prepare, and even have a romantic dinner before the hypnosis meet-up that evening. Said meet-up was an actual formal panel at the Fair, sponsored by the New England Hypnosis Group (a great outfit that was there to promote their upcoming convention, NEEHU 2.) We went around a surprisingly large circle of people, talking about who we were, why we were into hypnosis, what got us interested, what we liked to do…the panel only lasted an hour, but given that NEHG was hosting a room party about fifteen minutes later that lasted until about 2 AM, the conversation more changed locations than ended. I met several extremely fun people, chatted for hours, and generally just talked about stuff. That was Night One.

Morning Two came by pretty quick, since Lady Ru’etha had Her first panel at Ugh AM. While She talked all about what hypnosis was and how to do it with a very large, appreciative audience, I helped set up Her sales table over with the NEHG folks (who were nice enough to give us some of their limited table space. Thanks, NEHG!) We spent most of the day at the table, chatting with NEHG members, passers-by who had questions about the panel, and anyone who stood still long enough to chat, all the while alternating naps and food runs. (I did most of the latter. One of the things I genuinely enjoy is doing fetch-and-carry service for my Goddess.)

That evening, NEHG had a second room party, and this was the one you probably wanted to be at. Lots of people were doing hypnosis play in both of the two rooms, and Lady Ru’etha in specific had a very full dance card. She hypnotized a lot of people, implanting triggers into submissives for use by their dominants, and having one hell of a sexy vampkink scene with a very beautiful woman. No clothes were shed, but yow was it hot. (Oh, yes, and She did a bit of work with one couple allowing them to feel each other’s arousal. After they snapped out of the trance, the guy looked at the woman and said, “Well, I’m horny as hell. Let’s find someplace to go and have sex.” Lady Ru’etha actually did a Happy Butt Dance where She was sitting.)

Despite the fact that Her dance card was full all night, She still found time to do fun things with me; in addition to the usual trance triggers and demonstrating how brainwashed I am by having me recite my mantras, She also added a new trigger just for that night. When She pointed Her finger and thumb at me like a gun and “shot” me (complete with “Pop!” sound…wonder if She’s a ‘Wild Cards’ fan?) …I would feel it like a tranquilizer dart that sent me into trance over the course of a minute or two. As we both found out, the “drug” was also a euphoric…during the minute or so before I tranced out, I got very giggly and dizzy and happy. She liked it so much She made it a permanent trigger.

She also suggested that I would go under for anyone else who “shot” me, provided my subconscious was comfortable with trance, and indeed one young woman did trigger me like that. Amusingly enough, when she woke me, I then “shot” her with the same effect. That’s the sneaky thing about triggers, especially induction triggers…they’re really just ways to go into trance. They’ll always work if your subconscious wants to go into trance, and in a room full of hypnokinky hypnofetishists, well…who in that room that night didn’t want to go into trance?

I also got to see some very lovely hypno and rope play over the course of the night, which lasted until Way Too Late again. Which was unfortunate, because Lady Ru’etha’s room trance was once again at Ugh AM the next morning. I once again couldn’t be in the room for it, because I was once again outside keeping an eye on the sales table with the NEHG folks, but judging by the way people behaved when they came out, it seems to have been a success. (One hypnotist said he wished he could have taken notes on Her induction techniques. I share this because I am inordinately proud of my Goddess.) Afterwards, it was more food/nap/chat juggling before the Fair packed up and we decamped to the hot tub for a while to relax. Then Doctor SlashBlight came by and recorded a podcast with Lady Ru’etha, and then it was bed again to get up at Oh My God AM to get to the airport. (It is pretty ironic that so many late sleepers had so many early mornings.)

All in all, a very fun experience even though we didn’t really take in any of the non-hypnosis elements of the show (which did look very nice, and I’m sure were lots of fun for all involved.) I would love to go back next year, and who knows? Maybe I will.